英语social, 如何聊出质量？

和外国人聊三句就没话题？
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% H: J% q6 T! e- d& ^7 U( K: G听Jenny和Spencer分享英语聊天实用建议；
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! [# r$ g8 f* t节目音乐：Have you met Miss Jones? by Robbie Williams
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Run out of topics?

没话题、很尴尬？
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/ P& D7 L7 Y. q3 Y/ L. U" \! ODo you run out of things to talk about or always talk about superficial topics?
你是否聊着聊着没话题或者只能聊些很浅的内容？


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英语聊天，主要靠：

• Daily learning (日常累积)：英语＋文化
• Practical approach (实际步骤)：选择切入点＋适当扩展
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& i0 r; Y6 H# w7 t) V% R; PHow do you strike up conversations naturally with people whom you just met? 如何跟刚认识的人自然地开启话题？
; l! K2 |+ B( j" c! [＊Spencer对中文“搭讪”的理解有误＊：
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• strike up a conversation: 开始聊天，通用词
• hookup: 搭讪
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Keep it natural

中国人、外国人都是人

放下压力，松弛自然地交流
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Don't memorize fixed things to say to people: 不要像背稿子一样死记硬背
That's one of the reasons your conversations are very stale and limited. 那样的话，你聊的内容总是很老套、很局限
! \1 l: s5 x: u7 V( ALearn a useful train of thought or flow of logic: 掌握一些实用的谈话逻辑
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. f- `5 `/ [, ]7 p$ j8 f, J; ^: fJenny, Spencer先示范一下：
3 R$ u! L9 P% I+ D" PAssume we are at a social networking event and we don't know each other: 假设我们在一个社交场合，不认识彼此
& k! {; s; U. s7 @9 ]/ C% YLet's improv: 我们现场即兴演示一下
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自然的英语自我介绍方法

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J: Hi, I'm Jenny. Nice to meet you!
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6 r! x: D+ c% d0 MS: Hey, how's it going? My name is Spencer. Where are you from?
J: I'm from Shanghai. What about you?
S: I come from the States, come from D.C. But I bounced around a bit over the past few years, so it's kind of hard to tell where I'm really from at this point.
' W6 O7 Q1 P' T8 J* d2 kJ: I've been to the States almost ten times. But I've never been to DC, and I've always wanted to go.
S: You should check it out sometime. We've got a lot of cool stuff there. A lot of free museums are really fun to go to.
/ f# A# E* t! t" e- c7 JJ: But I guess it's a bit crazy this time of the year, given all the election talks.
: r' g) x9 W9 i' I/ _3 i1 wS: It's not as crazy as you may think it is. But if that guy, Trump, gets into the office, then all bets are off.

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• 初次见面，聊天很简单，从自己谈起！
  

Talk about yourself: who you're, where you're from;
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“What's your name?”

听起来像小学生

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• Introduce your name first.
• And say"And you are?"
  

例如:
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. ~1 J7 j+ m3 t$ |; @其实对方在听了你的名字后，基本上会自然地告诉你他／她的名字。


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扩展：谈场景、谈场合

Talk about the event, the immediate surroundings

7 y. \8 ^, d( ?/ KSpencer's tip: I usually say something that has to do with the event.
% V& Q9 w+ f$ N1 j5 S% \4 o0 tExample: Someone just gave the speech. I might turn to somebody and say, "Hey, is it just me or did that speech make you wanna go to sleep, too?" 如果有人刚做了个演讲。我可能就会对某人说：“嘿，是只有我一个人觉得困还是刚才那个演讲让你也犯困？”
$ G! H# ]) a; F. SIt's just a way to open up the conversation. I can just be joking. I like to start off with some sort of joke. 这就是一种开场的方式。我喜欢讲笑话。我喜欢用玩笑来开始对话。
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If you don't have Spencer's sense of humor, just say: That was a great speech. 如果你没有Spencer的幽默，那么就说：那个演讲真不错！

Then the conversation naturally flows from there. 然后对话就自然发展下去啦。
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如何谈工作？

除了 "What's your job?"，还有更多问法：
如果你已经知道对方工作的行业(industry specific)，可以这么问：

• What company are you with？
  

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• What do you do for a living?
• What kind of work do you do?
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• How long have been working at this company/in this industry?
• How long have you been in that line of work?
• How long have you been working in (industry)?
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• How long have you been working in marketing?
• When did you start your own company?
• Have you always been in education?
  

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Tailor your questions to what they do: 按照对方的行业进行扩展
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"Where are you from?"
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每个地方都有丰富的故事

Tie your conversation to the place he/she comes from.
, Y9 [2 @) H  X0 g( E9 hSpencer's tip: People like to know that you're knowledgeable of where they come from. 人们喜欢你知道一些他家乡的事。
4 \% _% q8 q* A& y0 T1 \6 A( mI can meet someone from practically any corner of the world. 我会遇到从世界各地来的人。
3 S/ R: s7 p; |: rSome little tidbit or some little piece of information I can throw out at them. They will feel: Wow, you know where I'm from! 我说一点跟他们家乡有意思的小事情，他们都会觉得：哇，你知道那里！
It will lead to very interesting and meaningful exchange. 这会让对话变得有意思，而且有意义。


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• If you've been to where they're from or know something about the place, talk about that: 如果你去过那里，或者知道那里的特色，就可以谈谈
  

, [- q9 R0 p( e) h& I2 s% ?即使你没去过，也有很多可以说！
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• What is (where they're from) like? 你的家乡是怎么样的呀？
• I've always wanted to go there but I haven't had the chance. Tell me more about it. 我总想去那儿，但一直没机会。你给我讲讲吧
• In return, talk about your city. 反过来，你也可以讲讲你的城市
  

怎么自然地结束谈话？

Wrap up a conversation gracefully

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Another role play 再来演一下
S: It's been a real pleasure meeting you today. I hope to encounter you at another one of these events.
J: Likewise. Do you use WeChat?
S: That, I do. But I'm usually out of China. So when I'm out, I usually use WhatsApp. Do you have WhatsApp? I know we're a little behind with the WhatsApp. It's easier to contact me on there.
J: No, you have to get on WeChat, especially if you travel to China. It's great. In any case, I'm on LinkedIn, or we can exchange email.
. H; N* |4 L4 t* Z/ T- _0 w% \- O& ~S: Cool, why don't we just exchange email and maybe I'll get on that WeChat thing a bit in the future.
J: OK, sure. It's a pleasure meeting you and enjoy the rest of the evening.
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结束谈话，用下面三个步骤：
1. 释放结束信号（Signal）

• It's been really nice meeting you.
• It's been a pleasure meeting you.
• It's been very nice talking to you.
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2. 交换联络方式 (exchange contact information)
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• Let's keep in touch.
• Are you on WeChat?
• Do you have a card?
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Enjoy the rest of ________.
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• Enjoy the rest of the/your day.
• Enjoy the rest of the/your stay.
• Enjoy the rest of the/your evening.
  

这些实用聊天技巧，大家以后用起来吧！
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• You need to build up your English skills and culture understanding.累积英语能力和文化认知
• We should be bilingual and bicultural. 不仅有双语能力，还有跨文化的理解
  

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