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最近网上最热门的一个话题就是进展神速的明星情侣——抖森&霉霉。我们今天就从他们说起，来聊聊中美的恋爱差异。
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the “it” couple: 最火情侣
"It" can be used to describe what's current and trendy: "It"这个词可以用来形容很火爆的人事物
例如 ：
The It girl: 很火的女明星
The It bag: 爆款包包
Taylor Swift and Tom Hiddleston are the “it” couple right now: 霉霉抖森的恋情可谓是全球瞩目 . E( x1 h* A, ]7 JToday, we’re going to talk about the sequences of dating in American culture, e.g. when it's appropriate to meet the parents and things of that nature: 今天我们要聊聊恋爱的顺序，比如何时见父母，诸如此类的问题# q! F& ^0 W. o3 m
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Dating vs. Relationship: 恋爱的不同阶段
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美国人谈恋爱，层次分明。有好感就是有好感，约会就是约会，恋爱就是恋爱。
而“I love you”对美国人来说是一个慎重的承诺，不会轻易说出口。
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What's the difference between dating and being in a relationship? : 约会和谈恋爱有什么区别？
Dating is one of the early stages of a relationship: 约会(dating)是谈恋爱的早期阶段 ( s3 U X& H aBeing in a relationship means a full-on relationship: 而恋爱(being in a relationship)则是关系已经确定下来了 # {$ [( f5 l' M, a随着关系不断发展，你可以说:! h5 f/ C' n0 f. \; z- C
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虽然才约会一两个月，但是抖森已经带霉霉见妈妈了。
见父母对美国人来说也是恋爱的一大里程碑吗？是否也意味着谈婚论嫁？
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The word “relationship” implies a degree of seriousness and commitment:"Relationship"在英语里意味着一种认真的态度和承诺
They’re dating with the intent of marriage: 是以结婚为目的在谈恋爱 " g% r7 ^3 W2 P, ]! ?The day after they announced they were dating, Taylor Swift was snapped by paparazzi as she visited Tom Hiddleston’s mom: 刚宣布两人在拍拖，第二天狗仔队就拍到抖森带霉霉见他妈2 c/ E8 v: y/ x
Is meeting each other’s parents a big deal in America?: 在美国见父母算恋爱过程中的大事吗？ ( @4 m- D8 e( G' L3 }It’s not as big of a deal as it is in China: 跟中国比起来，美国人没有把谈恋爱见父母看的这么重, Y! `' o" o4 |+ d1 D; {. ^
They can meet their dates’ parents in a more casual way: 美国人恋爱见父母可以是比较轻松的一件事: B v- u( r5 r9 G' |7 L
It means you're relatively serious, but it doesn't necessarily imply marriage: 当然，见父母也证明了两人关系比较认真，但不一定代表以婚姻为目的 3 L- J9 C+ D8 O% `- J8 F9 `) d( i% t" {
At what stage in a relationship would people meet each other’s parents?: 谈到哪个阶段才会见父母？
In an exclusive relationship: 两人各为唯一的约会对象4 E* A1 `9 n3 z' U
Many Americans believe, at early stages of dating, it’s okay to date a few people: 很多美国人觉得约会一开始可以跟几个人同时进行5 `% y0 e" z% k- q/ ?) J" i% G! u+ V
It depends on the person:因人而异 0 f7 t$ d) w# N0 i- pLet’s say you just happen to be at your parents’ house and the person you’re dating comes and picks you up there: 一种情况是你在你爸妈家，刚好你的男／女朋友来接你 \% h" R6 O/ i, Y- ZGenerally speaking, in America, if you parents meet the person you’re dating, it shows there’s a heightened level of interest: 美国人如果带去见父母，多少是表示恋情已经发展到一定阶段了 # d- O) o* m3 EHowever, it doesn’t mean you’re definitely thinking about getting married: 但不一定表示是奔结婚去的4 W4 Z$ M! t/ q% m# ~
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Moving on: 美国人的翻篇速度
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众说周知，霉霉的恋爱史已经够出书了。不仅够量，速度也是飞快。刚跟前任分手，火速就跟抖森谈恋爱了。其实，美国人对于这样的翻篇速度也颇有微词。
0 Y9 o" H" P+ d0 G) D5 JShe’s had a lot of high-profile relationships: 她谈恋爱满高调的1 q( _) g8 `: Y0 T
She’s a high-profile person: 她本身就是名人 . b* p( p/ O/ f0 X3 a4 zA player: 花心的人8 q8 \2 R! A% ^/ ~( F# q
In America, if a girl is going from boyfriend to boyfriend, she won't be welcomed by guys: 在美国，如果一个女生男朋友一个接着一个，那她在男生心里形象肯定不好 7 |. u% u) y& A% H9 AThe stigma still exists: 对于翻篇速度，还是有偏见的 ' d# K2 j; \0 ^; D0 rWhether it’s a guy or a girl, people who go from relationship to relationship are generally not very stable: 不管男女，恋情一段接一段，估计这个人不太靠得住1 w0 F5 V8 ?4 T) i
single phase/time between relationships: 空窗期 - O) x* f9 M% Y1 w1 x0 CMaybe you just don’t like being by yourself: 可能你不喜欢一个人3 q. `" Q( o# X6 r
Jennifer Lopez once said, “I’m not good at being alone”: Jennifer Lopez曾说过，“我不太擅长一个人过”, M5 C7 r1 g6 l; R* z
It’s definitely nice to have someone to share your life with: 有人陪伴当然是好事 0 R% C5 c3 X+ f4 q0 l1 vSome people are just needy/clingy: 有些人很粘人，一直要人陪% `& e+ ?& X6 M1 l; K% U$ v' i; r
You don’t really look at the relationship you’re in as that serious: 你对现在的感情不太重视 0 U2 r: [3 K, M' F6 F0 \! Q3 S) ?3 JEasily end one relationship and start another one: 挥手告别上一段恋情，就大步走向下一个人的怀抱 % t0 j1 x* l3 x6 h$ b# W7 o - \$ ^3 ~- ?, y' `" v8 Z* k3 b. B) E. T+ Q& {+ F7 T
de facto marriage: 事实婚姻，同上 : u8 w# r; D3 R, v/ W4 DI don’t want to get married: 我是个不婚族# d" X- q) ~, `" y8 }
Americans, for the most part, still regard marriage as an important institution: 大多美国人依然很看重婚姻这一传统0 s' m2 I5 n+ N
I’ve realized how conservative I am in some regards: 我发现某些方便我还是蛮保守的 % b+ |! u" O& r/ O) l% s7 ^I’m not super traditional or conservative, especially compared to a lot of Chinese people: 跟大多数中国人比，我不算太传统、太保守" m! ~; {7 k" B( J% U. f9 m2 o
But when compared to certain Europeans I’ve encountered, I realized that I’m a little more conservative: 但跟我认识的一些欧洲人比，我还是比较保守的 ' i* q* _" |" {: D4 e4 vI think of marriage as a big formality: 我觉得婚姻是一个重要的规矩 7 w! Z) ]2 r: P% n, O8 @What I mean by formality is that it’s just something that you do: 我说婚姻像一个”规矩”，意思是说你就得这么做 $ ^8 G- N7 }" S* @: R8 p; U& X5 BI could see myself getting married one day: 我想以后我还是会结婚的 + M; p5 z2 q; F0 zA lot of people get married for tax and legal purposes: 很多人结婚就是为了税务、法律方面的优惠 3 |( ~5 |6 L! n2 aIf two people have lived together for ten years, they might as well make it marriage and get some money back: 如果两人都已经同居10年了，不如就结婚算了，还能拿点钱 " R8 Y! F4 S/ l( Q3 S- MLet’s end the show on a more romantic note: 我们说点浪漫的事来结束今天的节目, Y( Y+ N( C! i) I! e" k
I totally believe in love, even love at first sight: 我当然相信爱情，我还相信一见钟情 " I" k! t0 ^: z0 B* s w( V) a$ ~& O% L$ R+ j6 K/ U( B) p
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恋爱、婚姻这个主题，大家一定有好多自己的意见、观点和经历，欢迎留言分享！
大家也可以在今天中午的直播课，和Spencer, Adam讨论这个话题 - b2 _& {2 o; |! J; K
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