英语social, 如何聊出质量？

和外国人聊三句就没话题？
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: K; K' j  z% ^* m! |+ c听Jenny和Spencer分享英语聊天实用建议；
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. ~& Z6 B8 r- u  t9 y节目音乐：Have you met Miss Jones? by Robbie Williams
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Run out of topics?

没话题、很尴尬？
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# {% |) i# R( ODo you run out of things to talk about or always talk about superficial topics?
你是否聊着聊着没话题或者只能聊些很浅的内容？
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英语聊天，主要靠：

• Daily learning (日常累积)：英语＋文化
• Practical approach (实际步骤)：选择切入点＋适当扩展
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How do you strike up conversations naturally with people whom you just met? 如何跟刚认识的人自然地开启话题？
＊Spencer对中文“搭讪”的理解有误＊：

• strike up a conversation: 开始聊天，通用词
• hookup: 搭讪
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Keep it natural

中国人、外国人都是人

放下压力，松弛自然地交流
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+ ?" _+ b" f/ Y) p- gDon't memorize fixed things to say to people: 不要像背稿子一样死记硬背
, s- C5 T0 h$ Z4 z( w+ N+ R9 G; X* BThat's one of the reasons your conversations are very stale and limited. 那样的话，你聊的内容总是很老套、很局限
Learn a useful train of thought or flow of logic: 掌握一些实用的谈话逻辑
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Jenny, Spencer先示范一下：
Assume we are at a social networking event and we don't know each other: 假设我们在一个社交场合，不认识彼此
Let's improv: 我们现场即兴演示一下
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自然的英语自我介绍方法

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" n! Z  e% o# U7 a& U# F9 NJ: Hi, I'm Jenny. Nice to meet you!
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S: Hey, how's it going? My name is Spencer. Where are you from?
J: I'm from Shanghai. What about you?
S: I come from the States, come from D.C. But I bounced around a bit over the past few years, so it's kind of hard to tell where I'm really from at this point.
J: I've been to the States almost ten times. But I've never been to DC, and I've always wanted to go.
5 t1 g! M% N  JS: You should check it out sometime. We've got a lot of cool stuff there. A lot of free museums are really fun to go to.
J: But I guess it's a bit crazy this time of the year, given all the election talks.
6 H" m" v4 }- Z- LS: It's not as crazy as you may think it is. But if that guy, Trump, gets into the office, then all bets are off.

总结：

• 初次见面，聊天很简单，从自己谈起！
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Talk about yourself: who you're, where you're from;
但是别两句话结束, 多扩展一些.
2 z. C* y; P1 {+ HBuild on the conversation.
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“What's your name?”

听起来像小学生

怎么问？

• Introduce your name first.
• And say"And you are?"
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Hi, I'm Jenny, and you are?
- V5 p$ n4 d" U! K8 i/ b9 {其实对方在听了你的名字后，基本上会自然地告诉你他／她的名字。
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扩展：谈场景、谈场合

Talk about the event, the immediate surroundings
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; W, b4 N1 D, i& o# |Spencer's tip: I usually say something that has to do with the event.
& p% }% g% m$ rExample: Someone just gave the speech. I might turn to somebody and say, "Hey, is it just me or did that speech make you wanna go to sleep, too?" 如果有人刚做了个演讲。我可能就会对某人说：“嘿，是只有我一个人觉得困还是刚才那个演讲让你也犯困？”
* F+ C0 _9 O6 `; R+ I: vIt's just a way to open up the conversation. I can just be joking. I like to start off with some sort of joke. 这就是一种开场的方式。我喜欢讲笑话。我喜欢用玩笑来开始对话。

If you don't have Spencer's sense of humor, just say: That was a great speech. 如果你没有Spencer的幽默，那么就说：那个演讲真不错！
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Then the conversation naturally flows from there. 然后对话就自然发展下去啦。

如何谈工作？

除了 "What's your job?"，还有更多问法：
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• What company are you with？
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如果你什么都不知道，那么可以这么问：
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• What do you do for a living?
• What kind of work do you do?
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接着这些问题，可以继续问下去：
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• How long have been working at this company/in this industry?
• How long have you been in that line of work?
• How long have you been working in (industry)?
  
• How long have you been working in marketing?
• When did you start your own company?
• Have you always been in education?
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( a% w& \( X$ a) x* J) T' \Tailor your questions to what they do: 按照对方的行业进行扩展

"Where are you from?"

每个地方都有丰富的故事

Tie your conversation to the place he/she comes from.
Spencer's tip: People like to know that you're knowledgeable of where they come from. 人们喜欢你知道一些他家乡的事。
$ \, I  v' y: X# K! }" [- \8 LI can meet someone from practically any corner of the world. 我会遇到从世界各地来的人。
Some little tidbit or some little piece of information I can throw out at them. They will feel: Wow, you know where I'm from! 我说一点跟他们家乡有意思的小事情，他们都会觉得：哇，你知道那里！
- F* l5 z- `( _, |; P9 @  BIt will lead to very interesting and meaningful exchange. 这会让对话变得有意思，而且有意义。
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• If you've been to where they're from or know something about the place, talk about that: 如果你去过那里，或者知道那里的特色，就可以谈谈
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• What is (where they're from) like? 你的家乡是怎么样的呀？
• I've always wanted to go there but I haven't had the chance. Tell me more about it. 我总想去那儿，但一直没机会。你给我讲讲吧
• In return, talk about your city. 反过来，你也可以讲讲你的城市
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怎么自然地结束谈话？

Wrap up a conversation gracefully

Another role play 再来演一下
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J: Likewise. Do you use WeChat?
S: That, I do. But I'm usually out of China. So when I'm out, I usually use WhatsApp. Do you have WhatsApp? I know we're a little behind with the WhatsApp. It's easier to contact me on there.
! S1 ^/ G7 j# ^8 N% JJ: No, you have to get on WeChat, especially if you travel to China. It's great. In any case, I'm on LinkedIn, or we can exchange email.
' |- r8 g6 g8 BS: Cool, why don't we just exchange email and maybe I'll get on that WeChat thing a bit in the future.
J: OK, sure. It's a pleasure meeting you and enjoy the rest of the evening.
S: Enjoy your stay here in Beijing.

结束谈话，用下面三个步骤：
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• It's been really nice meeting you.
• It's been a pleasure meeting you.
• It's been very nice talking to you.
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• Let's keep in touch.
• Are you on WeChat?
• Do you have a card?
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Enjoy the rest of ________.

• Enjoy the rest of the/your day.
• Enjoy the rest of the/your stay.
• Enjoy the rest of the/your evening.
  

2 b; a8 m/ W: v# n  L4 L这些实用聊天技巧，大家以后用起来吧！
有质量的英语交流，一定要靠平时累积：

• You need to build up your English skills and culture understanding.累积英语能力和文化认知
• We should be bilingual and bicultural. 不仅有双语能力，还有跨文化的理解
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帮大家做到bi-lingual, bi-cultural, 也是开言存在的意义;
我们会努力做得更好嗒！
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