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发表于 2016-11-4 12:24 | 只看该作者 |只看大图 回帖奖励 |倒序浏览 |阅读模式

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越来越多的姑娘在谈论口红、包包、鞋子、衣服,我们常听说一个漂亮的姑娘,一个性感的姑娘,一个聪明的姑娘,一个有钱的姑娘。有多久,人们没有谈论过“有气质”的姑娘了?

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迟暮依旧美人,末路仍是贵族。
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女人的气质,是一种修养,从来与年龄无关,与岁月无染。也不是一支高级口红、一身华丽衣服、一双名牌高跟鞋能与之匹配。, W  g0 o: q" J4 M# x- p$ E& R

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裕容龄
左 1934年,右 1960年
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照片中的女子是中国近现代第一位女舞蹈家裕容龄,她也是唯一一个跟随现代舞之母邓肯学习过舞蹈的中国人。年轻时候的容龄和姐姐德龄曾是慈禧太后的“御前女官”,深受慈禧太后的喜欢,容龄也因此得以将外国的舞蹈艺术带入重重封闭的深宫。
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文化大革命时期,容龄被当做“封建欲孽”,家居用品被抄走,藏书字画全部撕烂烧毁,居住的地方被霸占,双腿也被打断再也无法行走。对于一个舞蹈家来说,再也无法跳舞,在小床上孤苦度过余生是件无比痛苦的事情,但对于容龄来说,不管多艰难,也要认真地活着。梳洗穿戴从不马虎,说话谈吐,高雅幽默,情趣依然,令每一个见到她的人由衷折服。

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痛苦和磨难从来没有夺走她的优雅和气质
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一个有气质的女人身上是有磁场的,不靠性感的衣服,不靠浓艳的妆容,不靠惊艳的美貌,也一样地吸引人。% n- j' C( r# g3 c

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但,气质是个什么东西?

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顺手搜了一下气质的词条解说:

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是一个人从内到外的一种内在的人格魅力,人格魅力有很多,比如修养、品德、举止行为、待人接物、说话的感觉等等等等,所表现的有高雅、高洁、恬静、温文尔雅等。

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气质并不是自己所说出来的。而且自己长久的内在修养平衡以及文化修养的一种结合,是持之以恒的结果。
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突然想起了另一个民国女子,堪称“一代名媛”、“最后的贵族”的郑念。

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她出生名门,学识丰富,是那个时代妥妥的白富美。不过,这并没有什么,把任何一个人放在那种锦衣玉食的生活里,大概都能风姿绰约,举止优雅。
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真正感动我的是她后面的故事。

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如同容龄一样,郑念原本美好的家庭也在文化大革命期间遭受到了毁灭性的打击,先是家庭被洗劫摧毁,随即郑念因莫须有的罪名被捕入狱,而狱外的女儿被人活活打死。

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但恶劣的环境并没有让她变得随便与敷衍,面临拷打折磨,她从不悲声求饶,每天都保持衣冠整洁,不失理智和信念。不管遭遇什么,始终不灭的是那股傲气

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即使到老,郑念依然精致优雅,保持自己的讲究。她坐在那里,便自有一种独特的气质让人惊艳。有人的高贵浮于表面,而郑念则把高贵融入进骨子里
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她是那样漂亮,特别那双眼睛,虽历经风侵霜蚀,目光仍明亮敏锐,只是眼袋很沉幽,那是负载着往事悲情的遗痕吧!

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能享受最好的,能承受最坏的,无论遭遇什么,都未曾丢弃内心的高贵和尊严,这是气质。

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有人说:想知道气质是什么,看杨绛先生就知道了。
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她是才貌冠绝的民国才女,是丈夫钱钟书眼中“最贤的妻,最才的女”,是坚韧从容的精神贵族。

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杨绛曾借用英国诗人兰德的诗这样形容自己:“我和谁都不争、和谁争我都不屑,我双手烤着生命之火取暖。”她生于乱世,经历了十年文革,经历了爱女爱夫相继辞世,心中却始终保留着一份与世无争的宁静。

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相守60多年的钱钟书去世后,杨绛说道:
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钟书逃走了,我也想逃走,但是逃到哪里去呢?我不能逃,得留在人世间,打扫现场,尽我应尽的责任。
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丈夫离开后,她伤心却从不曾颓废,独自一人整理丈夫的学术遗物,深居简出,笔耕不辍,这是怎样的柔韧、独立、从容和充满力量。
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始终从容,始终留有内心的平静,这是气质。
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奥黛丽·赫本

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人人都记得奥黛丽·赫本年轻时最美的模样,那澄澈一如秋水的眼睛,瞬间令人屏息,但我更爱她年老时候的模样,那是过尽千帆后的坦然,是经历世事后的仁爱,是由内而外焕发的光彩。

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晚年的赫本担任联合国儿童基金会特使,始终坚持为儿童的生存权利而奋斗,为那些因为战争而伤残,因为饥荒而奄奄一息,因为社会不公平而流浪的亿万儿童而奋斗。

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的确,因为瘦弱,晚年的赫本比同龄人更显老,但心中有爱的她却有着无可复制的气质,这种气质让赫本的美超越了世间所有的漂亮。

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随着你的成长,你会发现你的两只手,一只是用来帮助自己,另一只是用来帮助别人。这是赫本留给世人的话。

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心中有仁,眼中有爱,在能力范围内去帮助那些需要帮助的人,这是气质。

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伏尔泰说“美只愉悦眼睛,而气质的优雅则能使人心灵入迷”。9 M2 M/ b% c; r6 l, N4 e" I) H

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有些人,其实算不得美,但当她拥有了属于自己的独特气质时,你就会觉得分外迷人。比如吕燕。

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眼睛小、塌鼻梁,厚嘴唇,无论从哪个角度来看,吕燕都算不上是美女,但就是这样一个乡下姑娘心中却有一个让所有人觉得是异想天开的模特梦。

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从被所有人否定到成为中国第一个走向国际的名模;从一句英文都不会到说一口流利的英语和法语;从一个乡下姑娘到创立自己的品牌,一路走来,吕燕经历过挫折,遭受过嘲笑,失败过无数次仍然坚定向前。

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现在的吕燕依然不漂亮,但看到她的人都觉得这个姑娘有一种不同于别人的气质和特色,甚至在很多外国人眼中,吕燕就是东方美的代言人。她不漂亮,但也可以很美。
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你觉得我好看,就多看两眼,不好看就别看呗。
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从没觉得自己漂亮,但也不觉得自己丑,从来没有自卑过

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不漂亮没关系,但一定要有自信和阅历。
刘晓庆的自传《人生不怕从头再来》,里面有一段话便是这样写道:
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我一直认为,其实世界上并不存在绝对美丽的人,和绝对的帅哥。先天的缺陷可以通过整形弥补,而才华和经历,一定会赋予一个人的形象一种光芒。我拍完电影以后人家说我是美女,我说“啊?我是美女?”,我认为没有绝对的美女,我也不是美女。只不过我的自信、神采、阅历,构成我现在的整体,我就是这么看的。
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不依附,不妥协,坚持并享受做最好的自己,这是气质。
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等到皮囊老去,支撑着你底气的就是气质。

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不够美丽没关系,但一定要有自己的魅力。有自己的事业,有自己的朋友,有自己的爱好,有自己的主张,有自己的立场。不因懒惰而邋遢,不因放任而随便,更不会言听计从,让自己没了主意和方向。
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由内而外的气质和溢于言表的才情,这是一个女人最高级的美丽。
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有气质的女人,即使白发苍苍,依然美丽如画。
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发表于 2016-11-4 12:26 | 只看该作者
http://www.careergirldaily.com/10-small-differences-between-ordinary-people-and-successful-people/
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Ordinary people become super successful all the time, but there are little things that can make all the difference between life as you know it and being super successful.
Here are ten little differences between ordinary and successful people that might be the key to living life as a successful career girl!
#1 Ordinary people hate mornings, successful people use mornings.
& I7 C7 Q7 r; _0 Z" l: ]7 z- X# ]Successful people know that they need to use their mornings to get the best start to their day, whether they exercise, meditate or plan for the day ahead.
#2 Ordinary people talk about wishes, successful people talk about ideas.
0 b& R1 ~  s7 X( V8 B+ B* tOrdinary people talk about things they wished they’d accomplished, whereas successful people talk about ideas. Wishes might never come true but ideas are constantly changing and evolving.
#3 Ordinary people are clouded by envy, successful people are motivated by it.+ q; N' x5 N% W; [$ ?8 Y' Z6 M/ v
Successful people don’t feel jealousy without feeling motivated, envy is your brain’s way of telling you what you hope to achieve, so the next time you feel envious and jealous don’t become spiteful or bitter, just try to discover what qualities you want in your own life.

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#4 Ordinary people make excuses, successful people make time.
. d) C9 b8 f4 p) C9 H( ]8 {Successful people often have to manage their lives and have little opportunity to back out of events or make excuses, but they know that their own time is important too so will dedicate themselves to social time and exercise regimes even when they don’t want to. The best way to stop yourself from making too many excuses is to have an accountability chart, whenever you start to think up an excuse ask yourself if it’s genuine and what will happen if you don’t go.
#5 Ordinary people want instant rewards, successful people look for long-term rewards.( s0 ]- a2 n- F
It’s true that successful people are often better at forward thinking, they see the end goal and the gratification that will come rather than the small milestones or times when others didn’t appreciate them. They know other peoples praise only matters as much as you want it to.

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#6 Ordinary people dream, successful people create.
. s! |# `4 y; D2 p. c' @The difference between dreaming and creating is simply breaking down the fear and throwing yourself into whatever it is you want to achieve. Successful people have often failed and have to throw themselves in at the deep end in order to get to where they are, ordinary people are held back by fear of trying something new.
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Everybody’s afraid of failure, but successful people know that failure marks the road to success and that even the most successful entrepreneur will have had to endure a few failures and knock-backs. It’s no less jarring, but it’s part of life.
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It’s normal to complain about the way things are, but in order to make the situation better for yourself you have to adapt. Successful people will adapt to the circumstances or try to change them, of course you’ll probably hear a few complaints here and there but only at the same time as they’re working towards change.
#9 Ordinary people judge others, successful people judge themselves
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#10 Ordinary people please others, successful people please themselves.
) x' c. ~2 M4 w; W- EIt sounds bad, but when you’re a people pleaser in a career it can often go wrong. Saying yes to things you don’t truly believe in just because you’re worried what others will think of you might not be the best for you in the long-run. Don’t be selfish though, successful people know when to help others and when to trust their gut and not embark on new ventures. If you know your morals and your long term goals, you know what aligns with them.

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