中美恋爱顺序是相反的？

最近好多听众让我们聊聊霉霉Taylor Swift和抖森Tom Hiddleston的恋情；

“美国人恋爱翻篇都像霉霉那么快吗？”

“美国人恋爱见家长也像他俩那么快吗？”

各种各样的恋爱差异，我们今天就来聊聊！
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（13:52，中美恋爱差异）

最火情侣: the “it” couple

, Y8 @8 R  j$ S! v! R  t4 Q4 U最近网上最热门的一个话题就是进展神速的明星情侣——抖森&霉霉。我们今天就从他们说起，来聊聊中美的恋爱差异。

the “it” couple: 最火情侣

"It" can be used to describe what's current and trendy: "It"这个词可以用来形容很火爆的人事物

例如 ：

The It girl: 很火的女明星

The It bag: 爆款包包

Taylor Swift and Tom Hiddleston are the “it” couple right now: 霉霉抖森的恋情可谓是全球瞩目
Today, we’re going to talk about the sequences of dating in American culture, e.g. when it's appropriate to meet the parents and things of that nature: 今天我们要聊聊恋爱的顺序，比如何时见父母，诸如此类的问题


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Dating vs. Relationship: 恋爱的不同阶段

美国人谈恋爱，层次分明。有好感就是有好感，约会就是约会，恋爱就是恋爱。

而“I love you”对美国人来说是一个慎重的承诺，不会轻易说出口。

What's the difference between dating and being in a relationship? : 约会和谈恋爱有什么区别？

Dating is one of the early stages of a relationship: 约会(dating)是谈恋爱的早期阶段
Being in a relationship means a full-on relationship: 而恋爱(being in a relationship)则是关系已经确定下来了
随着关系不断发展，你可以说:

• We’re going out: 我们看对眼 (表示双方都有好感)
• We’re seeing each other: 我们开始出去约会
• We’re dating: 我们在约会
• I'm in a relationship with someone: 我们现在是正式恋爱关系
• We're exclusive: 我们是专一的关系，不能约会其他人
  

Meet the parents: 美国人觉得见父母是大事吗？

虽然才约会一两个月，但是抖森已经带霉霉见妈妈了。

见父母对美国人来说也是恋爱的一大里程碑吗？是否也意味着谈婚论嫁？

The word “relationship” implies a degree of seriousness and commitment:"Relationship"在英语里意味着一种认真的态度和承诺

They’re dating with the intent of marriage: 是以结婚为目的在谈恋爱
The day after they announced they were dating, Taylor Swift was snapped by paparazzi as she visited Tom Hiddleston’s mom: 刚宣布两人在拍拖，第二天狗仔队就拍到抖森带霉霉见他妈
Is meeting each other’s parents a big deal in America?: 在美国见父母算恋爱过程中的大事吗？
It’s not as big of a deal as it is in China: 跟中国比起来，美国人没有把谈恋爱见父母看的这么重
They can meet their dates’ parents in a more casual way: 美国人恋爱见父母可以是比较轻松的一件事
It means you're relatively serious, but it doesn't necessarily imply marriage: 当然，见父母也证明了两人关系比较认真，但不一定代表以婚姻为目的

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美国人恋爱何时见父母?

在美国，谈恋爱见父母并没有在中国那么慎重，可能在约会初期来家里接人就恰巧碰到了。但不管怎么说，见了父母的总是比没见父母的更进了一步。

At what stage in a relationship would people meet each other’s parents?: 谈到哪个阶段才会见父母？

In an exclusive relationship: 两人各为唯一的约会对象
Many Americans believe, at early stages of dating, it’s okay to date a few people: 很多美国人觉得约会一开始可以跟几个人同时进行
' ?0 q% H  Z1 e' TIt depends on the person:因人而异
Let’s say you just happen to be at your parents’ house and the person you’re dating comes and picks you up there: 一种情况是你在你爸妈家，刚好你的男／女朋友来接你
3 D7 j* e: T. V4 b$ h9 D/ C8 d, BGenerally speaking, in America, if you parents meet the person you’re dating, it shows there’s a heightened level of interest: 美国人如果带去见父母，多少是表示恋情已经发展到一定阶段了
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Moving on: 美国人的翻篇速度

众说周知，霉霉的恋爱史已经够出书了。不仅够量，速度也是飞快。刚跟前任分手，火速就跟抖森谈恋爱了。其实，美国人对于这样的翻篇速度也颇有微词。

She’s had a lot of high-profile relationships: 她谈恋爱满高调的
* O+ f- P( u/ m7 z$ s2 ?+ zShe’s a high-profile person: 她本身就是名人
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In America, if a girl is going from boyfriend to boyfriend, she won't be welcomed by guys: 在美国，如果一个女生男朋友一个接着一个，那她在男生心里形象肯定不好
The stigma still exists: 对于翻篇速度，还是有偏见的
Whether it’s a guy or a girl, people who go from relationship to relationship are generally not very stable: 不管男女，恋情一段接一段，估计这个人不太靠得住
single phase/time between relationships: 空窗期
Maybe you just don’t like being by yourself: 可能你不喜欢一个人
' e$ |; S' M* N4 S0 {' }( N" IJennifer Lopez once said, “I’m not good at being alone”: Jennifer Lopez曾说过，“我不太擅长一个人过”
( t+ [2 t! ]+ T2 U6 Z2 \It’s definitely nice to have someone to share your life with: 有人陪伴当然是好事
& f/ L; v- Y, wSome people are just needy/clingy: 有些人很粘人，一直要人陪
) e' U. O$ i: S- ^; o0 I: I4 UYou don’t really look at the relationship you’re in as that serious: 你对现在的感情不太重视
Easily end one relationship and start another one: 挥手告别上一段恋情，就大步走向下一个人的怀抱
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Not getting married: 不婚族

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civil partnership: 民事伴侣关系，只缺一纸婚书

de facto marriage: 事实婚姻，同上
I don’t want to get married: 我是个不婚族
Americans, for the most part, still regard marriage as an important institution: 大多美国人依然很看重婚姻这一传统
: w$ v" ?8 P0 m; r" ]7 n' Q, R- yI’ve realized how conservative I am in some regards: 我发现某些方便我还是蛮保守的
5 Y4 g& ^9 G# r; v0 f: {" JI’m not super traditional or conservative, especially compared to a lot of Chinese people: 跟大多数中国人比，我不算太传统、太保守
But when compared to certain Europeans I’ve encountered, I realized that I’m a little more conservative: 但跟我认识的一些欧洲人比，我还是比较保守的
8 ?5 K; A3 U$ D4 C& U: |I think of marriage as a big formality: 我觉得婚姻是一个重要的规矩
What I mean by formality is that it’s just something that you do: 我说婚姻像一个”规矩”，意思是说你就得这么做
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A lot of people get married for tax and legal purposes: 很多人结婚就是为了税务、法律方面的优惠
' w6 I$ G: R2 x1 N7 nIf two people have lived together for ten years, they might as well make it marriage and get some money back: 如果两人都已经同居10年了，不如就结婚算了，还能拿点钱
. Y# E: v7 H+ v% E; O4 D( sLet’s end the show on a more romantic note: 我们说点浪漫的事来结束今天的节目
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