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标题: 歪国人眼里：中国妇女如何在结婚问题上感受压力 [打印本页]
作者: 蜻蜓点水    时间: 2016-4-15 19:09
标题: 歪国人眼里：中国妇女如何在结婚问题上感受压力
本帖最后由 蜻蜓点水 于 2016-4-15 15:23 编辑 8 U& [" Q4 |$ r$ O4 A

. ^8 e; O' M; g: }6 [" Hhttps://www.youtube.com/user/singaporeskii?nohtml5=False 制作了一个视频，关于中国妇女如何在结婚问题上感受压力， 以及剩女的实际意思：一个名词来说明女人在25岁后依旧单身。1 s7 V9 O, c8 }# t* k
下面是几则小故事These are a few of their stories:
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In Chinese, “Sheng Nu” translates to “leftover woman.”


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" C9 D( J, p, a" d3 N年轻女性被教导要孝敬父母的意愿，尽早发现一个很好的对象。
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如果他们没有在“正确”的年龄，父母和家人不断地羞辱他们为它结婚。0 k- n7 V: A7 |& Y3 T, R$ J

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“人们认为，在中国社会，未婚女子是不完整的。”
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“婚姻市场”是一个地方，父母去张贴他们的儿子“和女儿的个人资料，希望能找到一个结婚对象* x. Q$ V5 f, t. V8 b

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In Chinese culture, respecting your parents’ wishes is one of the most important lessons children are taught. And for many parents, they met their S.O. through an arranged marriage, normalizing the concept for them.6 p: m: R! ?9 \( c
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One mother said that while her daughter had a “great personality,” she was “just average looking…”
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5 |" ^0 V1 w$ M, I6 P1 i…and she attributed her “leftover” status to her daughter’s looks.) }1 G0 Y. y/ l. ~: [8 I+ e) a
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Many unmarried women feel an overwhelming sense of guilt for remaining single.
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And though they yearn for real love, the pressure they face from their families and culture makes deciding to wait for a genuine connection difficult.
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1 X: x$ ?8 V4 I$ q- y. [) LSo, a few of the women decided to go back to the marriage market — not to make a profile for themselves, but to leave their parents a message., n+ O0 K* ~( P: s. G, E$ O  U  o

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“Even if I’m alone, I will be happy, confident, and have a good life.”3 J: ^8 T- h& E4 E: a! p8 v1 ?
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. F/ x- O0 k' N3 T! B“As opposed to the term ‘leftover woman,’ I have a great career and there is another term called ‘power woman.’”
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“I don’t want to get married just for the sake of marriage. I won’t live happily that way.”
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And luckily, many of the parents were receptive to their daughters’ messages. As this mother said, “My daughter is beautiful. Leftover women should be proud.”& {( X( R6 m" X# E

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Because being a single, independent woman does not make you “leftover.” It’s makes you strong, beautiful, and confident in your own right.
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