B- S; w3 Q: l% n; V12. 我的家庭最让你心烦的事情是什么？ . e8 b v% a; d' ]* @& c
0 \9 ~: F% ]* A8 X2 D( h13. 我们永远不会因为婚姻放弃的东西是什么？ $ O7 t# x" \( H' f( ]; g& m 4 r( Z, r: p' @7 D) k+ x7 G14. 如果我们中的一人需要离开其家族所在地陪同另一个人到外地工作，做得到吗？ 2 H; ~* M' t/ O+ Y, P; y7 g: b) D1 u
15. 我们是不是充满信心面对任何挑战使婚姻一直往前走？ " B, D- {; U. `" q" U) Z 3 n/ w+ W' I8 `0 l: P 5 B6 ^. O2 r" c2 d/ W5 ^1 k n4 Z) `/ E) X5 H
原文： f/ k6 S% Q0 Q; L/ u8 \/ ^ ) j& O J. p7 i; S( @2 HRelationship experts report that too many couples fail to ask each other 9 G9 H/ N6 k' S; B' f# G critical questions before marrying. Here are a few key ones that . v+ v4 g- |+ u1 d H" W couples should consider asking: * m7 U7 u2 ]8 r0 J; {* n) y" [+ i! h% s4 l/ O/ ]
1) Have we discussed whether or not to have children, and if the answer is yes, who is going to be the primary care giver? 8 q. D8 J' w0 x! ~
3 A( D. [$ A- s# D3 J 2) Do we have a clear idea of each other’s financial obligations and goals, and do our ideas about spending and saving mesh? 6 Z' _5 [ P V0 q: E" k3 \$ T& ^5 [& n/ U/ i4 }+ p/ t
3) Have we discussed our expectations for how the household will be maintained, and are we in agreement on who will manage the chores? 6 u! d" v) U- Y4 I( c+ u" }5 u Z+ w- Y$ z! ?
4) Have we fully disclosed our health histories, both physical and mental? % |' A; l: o1 ^2 X+ _ [- T% Q, b; j
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5) Is my partner affectionate to the degree that I expect? $ c( j! R& ~0 A+ n$ e7 x& j+ {. r5 C5 F1 B5 h& L/ ]
6) Can we comfortably and openly discuss our sexual needs, preferences and fears? ' t( \: y* ?+ R2 Y( Q' n+ `9 e
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7) Will there be a television in the bedroom?+ v& v; a5 U/ R- C/ m, f, m* e4 k/ f
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8) Do we truly listen to each other and fairly consider one another’s ideas and complaints?; g, U F' F1 F8 @9 P/ H: z# J6 j
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9) Have we reached a clear understanding of each other’s spiritual beliefs and needs, and have we discussed when and how our children will be exposed to religious/moral education?* J5 K3 ^3 e n+ i- f7 p
' Z z7 n; O+ C4 y 10) Do we like and respect each other’s friends? - j3 k9 r# h0 X2 W4 ]7 q4 o0 L ! m4 Z& T l- F& S 11) Do we value and respect each other’s parents, and is either of us concerned about whether the parents will interfere with the relationship? : X, e5 l5 \/ B % v+ K' D* F5 _$ t. O/ } 12) What does my family do that annoys you? % G' \! y; R! I2 k t4 M. J0 R$ [5 l# y
13) Are there some things that you and I are NOT prepared to give up in the marriage? 5 A$ c3 [( c+ K ) e& Z7 S. G; z4 e+ ^" G 14) If one of us were to be offered a career opportunity in a location far from the other’s family, are we prepared to move?5 N2 I; e( Z: S" Q$ ~6 Y( Q
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15) Does each of us feel fully confident in the other’s commitment to the marriage and believe that the bond can survive whatever challenges ' d0 ~) B; T% U3 F- s. n
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简单说就是建立沟通和尊重的基础，是不是？9 r) v- `: a- c$ o5 C